Lesson 5—Starting a Conversation—Tact
LESSON 5
Principle: “Let your words always be gracious.”—
(Colossians 4.6: Let your words always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should answer each person.)
What Paul Did
1. Watch the VIDEO, Or Read Then consider the following questions:
(Acts 17.22, 23: Paul now stood in the midst of the Areopagus and said: “Men of Athens, I see that in all things you seem to be more given to the fear of the deities than others are. For instance, while passing along and carefully observing your objects of veneration, I found even an altar on which had been inscribed ‘To an Unknown God.’ Therefore, what you are unknowingly worshipping, this I am declaring to you.)
a. How did Paul feel about the false religious practices he saw in Athens?—See
(Acts 17.16: Now while Paul was waiting for them in Athens, his spirit within him became irritated on seeing that the city was full of idols.)
b. Rather than condemn the Athenians, how did Paul tactfully use their beliefs as a way to share the good news?
What Do We Learn From Paul?
2. People are more likely to listen to us if we carefully choose what we say as well as how and when we say it.
Imitate Paul
3. Choose appealing words. For example, when speaking with someone from a non-Christian background, you may need to adjust the way you introduce the Bible or how you refer to Jesus.
4. Do not be quick to correct a person. Allow him to express himself freely. If he says something that conflicts with Bible teachings, resist any urge to argue.
(James 1.19: Know this, my beloved brothers: Everyone must be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger,)
By listening to him, you gain insight into his viewpoint.—
(Proverbs 20.5: The thoughts of a man’s heart are like deep waters, But the discerning man draws them out.)
5. Agree with and commend the person where possible. He may sincerely believe that his religious beliefs are correct. Build common ground first, and then progressively help him understand what the Bible teaches.
STARTING A CONVERSATION
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(Proverbs 25.15: By patience a commander is won over, And a gentle tongue can break a bone.)
(2 Timothy 2.23-26: Further, reject foolish and ignorant debates, knowing that they produce fights. For a slave of the Lord does not need to fight, but needs to be gentle toward all, qualified to teach, showing restraint when wronged, instructing with mildness those not favorably disposed. Perhaps God may give them repentance leading to an accurate knowledge of truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the Devil, seeing that they have been caught alive by him to do his will.)
(1 Peter 3.15: But sanctify the Christ as Lord in your hearts, always ready to make a defense before everyone who demands of you a reason for the hope you have, but doing so with a mild temper and deep respect.)